Male Dating Tips

Why Nice Guys Fail With Women By Dan Bacon | 19-10-2007 http://www.themodernman.com

My name is Dan Bacon and I used to suck with women.

Nice guys finish last with women. Find out what you need to do to have women chasing YOU I was the typical nice guy that women would only ever see a 'friend' type. It sucked and to even be more candid - it was a very lonely life to be living.

I remember coming home one night, returning from 'after-work drinks' and my older sister asked me, "So Dan, did you pick up tonight?"

I looked down and shrugged my eyebrows, letting her know that it was another uneventful night in terms of women.

Although her reply was meant to be supportive, it sparked a fire inside of me that led me to completely change my dating life (to the point where women now try to pick ME up) and get so good with women, that I have now become a highly-acclaimed dating coach and expert author on the subject.

My sister's reply?

"Don't worry, you're a nice guy...the right girl will come along one day. There's no hurry..."

Argh! I hated hearing that.

I wanted control over my dating life now, not in 10 years...and guess what -I got it!

By the way...

By reading this far in, I'm now going to assume that you can relate to my story, even if only slightly.

You're probably a bit of a nice guy when it comes to women, and you may be finding it hard to meet and date the women you really want to be with.

Correct?

Well my new friend, here are some tips from a former Mr. Nice Guy who is now a confident, social guy who ALWAYS has more than one girl to date at any given time.

No More Mr. Nice Guy: Tip #1

Understand what women really mean by 'nice guy'

When a woman says, "I just want a nice guy" she isn't referring to a nice guy who:

• Is nervous around her
• Is always nice to her, like he would be to his grandmother
• Calls her too often
• Tells her that he has 'feelings' for her too early
• Behaves submissively or weakly around her
• Always accepts her demands, just so she will spend time with him or continue talking to him
• Becomes her doormat and puts his own needs aside
• Listens to all of her problems and discusses them in the way her girlfriends would
• Gives away his power to her, and allows her to become the boss
• Always asks what she wants to do, instead of being a man for her and taking the lead.

However, she IS referring to a nice guy who:

• Is confident around her & her friends
• Knows how to flirt
• Knows how to behave like a 'challenge'
• Takes on the masculine role in the interaction or relationship
• Respects her and likes her, but also gives plenty of time and attention to his life and what he's achieving/trying to achieve
• Can use humor in an attractive way
• Is confident around other guys

No More Mr. Nice Guy: Tip #2

Realize that nice guys are not pick #1 with women

Calling all nice guys - the time to change is NOW. Women are waiting for you...What would happen if you asked guys all over the world to STOP feeling a sexual attraction for slim, model-type women and start feeling it around obese women?

They wouldn't do it.

Same goes for women...

No matter how much you try to explain it to a woman, "What do you see in him? He doesn't even call you that often! If I were with you, I'd treat you like a princess - why won't you see me in that way?" she will never be able to turn off her natural, biological and psychological urge to be with a confident, alpha male.

She just won't.

If you are a nice guy with women and you aren't willing to change, then you can pretty much guarantee that you will always struggle with women.

Do you want to become a confident, social guy who always gets with women?

Are you willing to make the changes?

No More Mr. Nice Guy: Tip #3

Become a good guy with EDGE

No more Mr Nice Guy - it's time to get some booty Nice guys often shy away from developing their personality into what women find attractive, for a variety of reasons.

After coaching nice guys on weekend courses for the past 3 years, here are some of the more common reasons that pop up:

Please note: I am a former nice guy (who was in denial for quite some time), so I understand that some of these may sound harsh to you. If you think that one of the points is too harsh, stop and ask yourself, "Do I think like that sometimes... even just a little bit?"

Nice guys, sometimes:

1. Want people to just like them for who they are now
2. Don't realize that their nice guy behavior is hurting their dating life, not to mention their career and social life
3. Assume that changing their behavior would be an insult to their personal values on 'being nice' to others
4. Are too afraid to be anything other than nice (i.e. flirtatious, challenging behavior around women), out of fear of being laughed at, punished or judged
5. Think that everyone else is wrong and people should just be nicer to each other
6. Don't want to admit to themselves that they need to change, because that would mean taking risks and changing.
7. Don't know where to start

So, where do you start and what is the quick solution?

The solution is not to go from being a nice guy, to being a bad-boy who treats women badly.

The fastest, most effective and longest-lasting solution is to go from being a nice guy to a good guy with EDGE.

Now, chances are - you are already a good guy! Awesome, you're half-way there.

The next steps are to develop the EDGE that women are attracted to.

What is a good guy with edge?

A good guy with edge is a nice guy (not like the nice guy outlined in Tip #1), who also demonstrates the personality traits and behaviors that women are attracted to. Things like:

• Flirting.
• Confidence.
• Alpha male qualities.
• Humor.
• And more...

If you are a nice guy who wants women to feel a strong natural, attraction for you - then now is the time to do something about it.